Cause for frustration has been seemingly never-ending lately and though I’ve succumb to it on many occasions, it’s not worth it. You’re just pissed off, waste energy and nothing changes. On the days when you just want to say, “Fuck it.” and be miserable, try these three things. I’m trying, too.
It is what it is.
It’s not a mantra of defeat. It’s a reminder that some things just aren’t going to change, so it’s in our best interest to acknowledge that and work around the obstacle. Acceptance took me years to implement. Honestly, I’m still not great at it, but I can assure you it will save you a lot of headaches. I’m notorious for letting small things damper my mood. You may not have checked everything off your to-do list, said the right thing, or got up on time, but there’s nothing you can do about it now. Make the best of what you have.
Do at least one thing that brings you joy.
It’s hard to be down when you’re doing something you love. Unfortunately for a lot of us, everyday isn’t filled with tasks we’re thrilled to do. Instead, you may be scrambling to remedy the fifteenth problem you’ve encountered that day. Even taking a small time out for yourself can drastically improve your mood. Be selfish and make time for a little fun. It gives you a positive experience to look forward to and a chance to remove yourself from the chaos around you.
Self care is necessary and I’ve learned that the hard way. The amount of times I’ve fallen apart by my own doing are countless. A few weeks ago, someone told me, “Invest in yourself. Who else will?” and she couldn’t be more right. If you want to be happy, you have to make it happen. No one else can can do it for you. Just the small act of dedicating a bit of time to taking care of yourself, physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually, is an investment in your wellbeing and you’ll see its returns in every facet of your life.
Celebrate the Successes
I think we’re all guilty of this. It doesn’t matter how much we did right, we’re only concerned with what we did wrong. Why? I don’t know. Essentially, we’re choosing dissatisfaction over satisfaction and that makes no sense. Positive reframing of your thoughts is a powerful tool that changes how you see the world and yourself. At first it may seem silly, but soon it makes sense. You go from thinking, “I hate that this project is taking so long.” to “I’m proud of myself for staying dedicated and it’s going to feel so good when this is done.” Any success, no matter how small, is a reason to be happy. Find the good. I promise it’s there.
I hope you’ve found this helpful and at the very least, know you’re not alone in feeling like happiness is impossible. I understand how you feel, but I assure you, it’s achievable and we’re finding it together.
Please share your thoughts and what you do everyday to be happier. I’d love to have a discussion of this important topic.