Guys, I was so excited to finally have another DIY post. I attempted to make a simple cotton triangle bra because I’m in desperate need and couldn’t find an affordable ethically made option. I even teased it on my Instagram stories and was diligently working away, buuut it ended up being a complete and utter failure. My inability to find or make bras that fit led me to break my ethical shopping rules.
Boobs are complicated.
It’s been over two months since my only real bra that mostly fit gave out and I’ve been living in sports bras since. It wasn’t a lack of trying to find a replacement. Actually, I spent a ridiculous amount of time looking. There are definitely reasonable priced options, but finding bras that are produced ethically isn’t my biggest challenge.
Though it feels a bit weird talking about this, no one else is and I can’t be the only one. My bra size is impossible for a few reasons.
First, how is a 32 the smallest size typically offered? There are plenty of women who have petite frames. Even if it’s normal to end up at least that size, what about young girls that are still growing? A 32 band size is just too big for some ladies. There are some companies that cater to petite women, but they often assume because your ribcage is small, you must have an equally small chest. From personal experience, I know it doesn’t work like that.
To my knowledge, there is no ethical brand that offers my size. I decided to give in and consider the relatively few nontransparent brands that do carry my size, but the issues don’t end there. To complicate things further, I have pectus excavatum. I plan to talk about it in detail at some point, but basically it means my chest is concave. Luckily, it doesn’t affect my lungs or heart, but it can in other cases. It does mean that bras are not built to fit my body. The vast majority don’t fit at all and I’ve never found one that fits perfectly. Honestly, not a great feeling.
Last weekend, I was in a fast fashion retailer and I saw one style that I thought just might work, so I had it try it on. It’s the best fit I’ve ever had although it still requires some alterations. It felt so good to finally wear a bra that fit my body. Well, minus the too large band size.
Though it’s so nice to have bras, I feel a bit guilty for buying them. I broke the promise I made to myself that I wouldn’t purchase unethically made clothing. I don’t want to support such practices, but where do we draw the line?
With certain lifestyle choices, like shopping ethically or being vegan, there is often an all or nothing mentality. We can judge ourselves and others harshly when we slip up or give in, but it’s not helping the cause. It’s intimidating and makes people not even want to try.
Yes, I broke the rules. I made an exception to ethical fashion, which I love sharing here and wearing in my day to day life. This isn’t me confessing a sin, I’m just being transparent. I want you to know that if you’re really trying to only buy ethical fashion, but aren’t doing it perfectly, it’s okay. We’re all just trying to do our best.
Yeah, my creation was a disaster…
If you buy ethical fashion or practice any other conscious lifestyles, have you faced a similar situation? Also, are bras a struggle for you, too? I’d love to discuss both, so please share in the comments.